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The Art of the Surprise

Earlier I was thinking about how much I like surprises and how I love to be surprised. Now, I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in this. Who doesn’t love random little surprises like an email from a loved one or a spur of the moment plan? Not to mention, it’s a great way to win a girl’s affection.

So here’s a tip. Want a girl to like you more? Surprise her!

Now there are certain things that should be kept in mind when dealing with surprises. There are surprise guidelines and basics.

First, spontaneity is key. If you tell a girl you’re going to surprise her later that night, sure, it’s going to antagonize her all day, but she gets her expectations up. This could prove fatal for the actual surprise. If it’s not as good as she imagined it, then she wont like it as much. Sorry. So your best bet: Make it a true surprise. Sex on the other hand, is the exception to this rule. Better to make them think about it all day

Another fun kind of surprise is one that one has to find. For example, like I found recently, my boy left a comment on a friend’s blog about me that was really sweet. He has no way of knowing if I saw it or not, but it was there and it made me very happy. Thus, the surprise left to find is an excellent one, with great results, and can have a very good pay off later on.

Now, the biggest rule of surprises is that they shouldn’t come with strings attached or require payment. A surprise is a gift. Whether is a comment, flowers, jewelry, or a dinner at her favorite restaurant. Granted, it has the underlying purpose to get you laid, but you can let her believe its just because you want to make her happy. After all, the happier she is, the happier you will be later that night.

If everything is announced, or if everything is always the same, it gets boring. One needs to keep things exciting. Keep her on her toes. Make her wonder.

The key thing, keep the surprises spread out. Surprise her every day and she will come to expect them, and you’ll run out of ideas! A variable ratio is the best method.